A year ago today, sometime in the early morning, our sonJack died
. A year ago, stunned, shocked, uncomprehending we flew out of
Adelaide, into Melbourne and a world without Jack. A year on, many tests later
we still do not know why he died. Something like 50% of all sudden deaths
young healthy people never do have definitive explanations. The most likely
explanation is a rogue electrical storm seized his heart.
We have been tested for the commonest forms of heritable heart disease
that can cause such lethal storms. We are all clear of them,
MiddleOne at the very least is free of these forms, and is probably no more
likely than most people to succumb to a cardiac storm.
Can you imagine what it would be like to be a teenager with
that hanging over you? Exams, career planning none of that matters when your
future could be taken from you in an instant. Now the Damocles sword has been
removed and life can move on past the year without Jack.
A year without Jack. The final anniversary in the dreadful countdown
but not the end of the process. There will always be a gap, a space
where Jack was. A bus station where he will not arrive, a fencing club
not go to, a phone number that will not answer.
We can navigate that space now, rather than tiptoe around it
as we move into the future. Our friends and Jacks friends, our family, the Farrago community
have all worked together to find our paths around this gap. We
will continue to journey on. Jacks friends will branch out into the wider world,
continuing to forge their identities, facing new challenges, new successes and
failures (for how do we learn if we do not fail occasionally). Possibly wearing
pink fencing socks.
His brothers too are charting their own futures in their own
ways. They will make their own impacts, whether in music
or some other sphere,
enriching the lives they touch. Not in the same way Jack enriched others’
lives, but in their own special ways. One year past Jack the future beckons.
A year without Jack, but a year with his stories
his stories, his beautiful powerful stories, will inspire people to continue on
the journey started by Brave Ulysse
s and the world will in fact not be without Jack.
Labels: home life, homelife